ACOA Characteristics

ACOAs...

1.) ...guess at what normal behavior is.
2.) ...have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.
3.) ...lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
4.) ...judge themselves without mercy.
5.) ...have difficulty having fun.
6.) ...take themselves very seriously.
7.) ...have difficulty with intimate relationships.
8.) ...overreact to changes over which they have no control.
9.) ...constantly seek approval and affirmation.
10.) ...usually feel that they are different from other people.
11.) ...are super responsible or super irresponsible.
12.) ...are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.
13.) ...are impulsive and tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious behaviors or possible consequences. This impulsiveness leads to confusion, self-loathing and loss of control over their environment. In addition, they spend and excessive amount of energy cleaning up the mess.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Healthy?

http://20outof10.blogspot.com/2008/04/i-hate-alcohol.html

I stumbled upon this post from a registered nurse. While it makes me feel better to have some of my feelings shared by 'an outsider,' it still makes me wonder the best way to feel: come to a point where I can approve alcohol as being "okay" in moderation, or reject it personally and just "accept" that it's out there...?

Refer to my post from last year for a reminder about some ways I drive myself crazy in thinking about alcohol...

Does it bother you when other people drink?

Posted by Curious Student at 3:14 PM
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  1. BradenNovember 22, 2008 at 10:21 AM

    Thank you for visiting my post. If I may offer my opinion on the matter:

    It is healthy to view alcohol as a scourge and an evil. After all, it is. By it's very nature, alcohol is behavior and mind-altering and addictive and inherently very dangerous.

    That said, while we can rail against it and hate it, we need to come to an understanding that it is here to stay and that it will always be a large part of society. Therefore we need to accept that other people will use it and abuse it and embrace it. These people have their agency (until that freedom of choice leads them to take away the agency of others) and we are just going to have to deal with it.

    So I don't think that we should ever view alcohol in moderation as being "okay" (after all, how many alcoholics started out as drinkers in "moderation"?) but to some extent I think we need to "accept that it's out there" and that we can't control others.

    Neither I nor my family have ever been alcoholics, so I do not really understand what it is like to be on the "inside" but I appreciate your fight and stand with you as much as I can from the outside.

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  2. Curious StudentDecember 11, 2008 at 11:20 PM

    Hi Braden, thanks for responding to something that seems so far away from the realm of your blog, haha!

    Your words bring me much comfort in my struggles, but I think it would only be fair to offer more of the informative elements that keep it a "struggle" for me, personally.

    For instance, what about the facts that alcoholism is genetic, and therefore not everyone can inevitably "turn into" alcoholics, regardless of how much one does or doesn't drink; and that moderate drinkers are still found to have the best health; and the biblical importance placed on alcohol?

    Those are some things I always find myself coming back around to after circles of thoughts that make me wonder if I'm still acting from an "extreme" standpoint because of my upbringing and if there's a less-stressful level of "acceptance" beyond "just dealing with it"...

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Thanks for commenting! I appreciate your input.

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